There are moments when we realize that our good old habits are not helpful anymore. And by doing the same things the same way over and over again, we get always the same mediocre results.
If you want to do something about that, here are three tips how to start doing things differently:
What is your habit, the autopilot that drives your behavior? When does it show up? What are the benefits and pitfalls of behaving in such a way?
Imagine Mrs „Giving up too soon“. She gives up with a first hurdle. She uses hurdles as a „legitimate“ excuse not doing things she does not like.
The safe situations can be with your friends or when you are alone. It can be just a little step out of your usual zone of comfort. If you fail, the impact is not huge.
Mrs. „Giving up too soon“ forgets her phone at home. She usually uses google maps to find the place she is looking for. She goes to a networking event and she really does not feel like going there. She has no obligations to show up anyway. Forgetting her phone would be a good excuse to abandon it. Especially if she has just a few minutes to get there on time and she has no idea where the place is. However, she decides not giving up this time and she gives herself a freedom to try and find the place anyway.
In case you succeed, great! Take a good note and remember your success when you face next challenge. In case you fail, what do you need to adjust so that it works better next time?
Mrs. „Giving up too soon“ persists and asks other people how to get to the networking event. She finally gets there with ten minutes delay. Her learning is that she does not need to give up if she is under time pressure. It is better to come later than never. Next time she is under time pressure, she knows that being late is not a reason to give up.
Maybe Mrs. „Giving up too soon” asks one person and the person does not know. Then she notices that her nylons have torn, so she takes the first bus home. The learning can be that she will have to look longer for the right people that can help her. And to wear something more convenient, of course.
Changing behavior is not an easy process. It takes time, focus and effort. The outcome, however, can be extremely rewarding.